Dragonflyguy, 69

I know what I want, what I like and what I need. I also know the opposite of all those things. If you have a keen sense of the same perhaps we could get together sometimes and explore the possibilities. I could list a lot about myself but then again I could also "lie" a lot about myself. This is an ad but I'm not selling anything, I'm looking like you are. So let me simply say what I'm looking for and if you feel it might be you then we can take it from there and see what the truth is. So here is what I seek.

First the dis-qualifiers... the short list... My ideal match is sure of themself and who they are and want to be. They are not "looking for themselves" or "trying to find their own space". They know these things and are confident and prepared to share that with someone else. This does not mean they aren't evolving, blossoming or growing it means they can be in flux but not confusion. They can be "healing" from a past or past relationship, but need to be far enough in the healing process to function well in a new one. This is all I ask a person wanting to know me not to be. If this is you read on...

If you are still reading then I will get down to the heart of the matter by asking these questions of you. Can you be faithful, trusting and trusted? Can you be upfront and honest about what you want without beating around the bush? Can you be free with yourself enough to be with someone else on a personal level? If love, intimacy or -------ity is what you seek can you give all that you can take and know that you want more and not less? Can you truly be prepared to take it higher when the time comes and know there is never a better time than the present?

If you only need occasional companionship when you want it and are not seeking a commitment beyond that, can you express and accept it in a relationship?

If you can answer these things in a truly positive way then I am positive we have a reason to invest the gift of our time in taking this further. We'l