Black/White Dating Versus White/Black Dating

[litlerdcaboose]

As a rule, you see more black males with white female relationships than white males with black female relationships. For a long time, I pondered that issue. My take on it is that black men are more forward when asking for a date. They take the initiative when seeking a date. On the other hand, even though a white guy may be attracted to a black women, he usually doesn't take the initiative and ask her out. I don't think it's because he is afraid of what others might say or that he will get turned down. I just think maybe he might feel that a black woman would have no interest. No way! There are a lot of us black females out here who would love to have a white guy ask them out! Lots of us prefer interracial relationships and some of us are even seeking LTR/marriage. But, if we never get asked out, how would you know? I know that in today's relationships, females also have the right to ask a guy out, and, some of us do. However, there are still a lot of us females that love the old fashioned Boy-Meets-Girl scenario. I wonder how other black females feel about this???

Litlerdcaboose

[teacake832 (deleted)]

.I really feel the same about this issue. I have always felt like the guy should ask the woman out on a date if he is really interested. Not enough white guys ask black females out, like the black guys do. I would love to be asked out by a white guy, and to be honest and tell the truth that is what I am really looking for is a strong white man to be my knight and shining armor

[bibleman]

.I'm gonna be frank with you all if i could live long enough i would ask you all out.There is nothing prettier than a black female.The only thing i ever worry about is offending you all. Really i think you all are right white men just don't know what their missin.

[mityfine (deleted)]

`i wonder about that also. I myself dont want to be to foward, but i want to be asked out by a white guy. I just dont know

[(deleted)]

`I got up the nerve to ask out a white guy last November, just before Thanksgiving. I'd known him through a mutual friend...
We met in person at a singles event & exchanged e-mail addresses. We chatted via e-mail for a few months...Anyway, I asked him out for coffee & to chat since the event was too crowded to chat one-on-one. He said he'd think about it....Via e-mail he asked me out to lunch & I agreed to go.
I have to say I had a nice lunch with him, but between his job hours & me being my mom's caregiver we haven't been able to have that second date.
No, I didn't suggest the second date....he did. I found him attractive, but
I am not going to push for the second date since it was his idea. The ball so to speak is in his court. Its his move to make. Its been a few months, and
I'm beginning to think that the attraction was only on my side. I think he may have "cold feet" to have another date with me. Of course I could be wrong, but, at least we still e-mail each other and we have a friendship of sorts on that basis.

[bibleman]

.You can spend a lot of time wishing this or that may change but it may not.I just spent 3yrs of communication with a lady i care a lot about just to have her walk away just before we was to be married. There is a few of us white guy's out there that only want a relationship with a black woman and nothing else will do. God Bless You Greg

[saintjoseph]

.Keep your head up homie. Love knows no bounds and you will get yours. Just have faith.

[cye (deleted)]

`I dont waste my breathe asking out a white man..i feel as though their not interested after my sociology project...i took a poll of the majority of the men on my campus...and asked "Are they attracted 2 other races"...i was happy to get the response yes...but not happy with the results....most white males on my campus said they would rather date asians,whites,and hispanic girls rather than black...one male said "blacks are just not as attractive and honestly they scare me..only if their mixed...that would b ok" i think i stood their with my mouth opened for a second or two....and it wasnt just the white guys it was everyone besides the 1 or 2 i found... but even the black men...one man said.."i like my snow bunnies"...now that made me feel hideous..i dont think ive ever been more self conscience than now.....Am i not attracive becuase of my race? do i scare men away becuase im black?...i was soo disgusted..and disatified

[cougar158]

litlerdcaboose wrote: As a rule, you see more black males with white female relationships than white males with black female relationships. For a long time, I pondered that issue. My take on it is that black men are more forward when asking for a date. They take the initiative when seeking a date. On the other hand, even though a white guy may be attracted to a black women, he usually doesn't take the initiative and ask her out. I don't think it's because he is afraid of what others might say or that he will get turned down. I just think maybe he might feel that a black woman would have no interest. No way! There are a lot of us black females out here who would love to have a white guy ask them out! Lots of us prefer interracial relationships and some of us are even seeking LTR/marriage. But, if we never get asked out, how would you know? I know that in today's relationships, females also have the right to ask a guy out, and, some of us do. However, there are still a lot of us females that love the old fashioned Boy-Meets-Girl scenario. I wonder how other black females feel about this???

Litlerdcaboose

I believe that you are correct about white men having a sense that black women wouldn't have an interest in white men. Some of my buds have told me that they've wished they had asked out certain black women that we knew but they felt they'd get shut down. One bud asked me how I screwed up the courage to ask a certain woman out. "Simple, remember that she's a woman and treat her like a lady. Be polite, ask her out. If she turns you down itll be because of a reason other than race." Listen up guys ask these beautiful black women out. They are amazing.

[bavariasfinest]

.I've made the experience that many black women hate on white women that date black men..like "ur takin our best men"..i think its sad cuz it gives the other black women a bad reputation. why cant everybody just be happy for a couple - regardless of skincolor - that has found each other and is happy?
I've also made the experience that white men are different than black men when it comes to approaching a woman. if a black man really wants it, hes not gonna give up until he has it (unless he just wants someone to spend one night with) a white man will give up very quickly (if he asks at all). I'm often ask "girl why dont u date white guys?" and my answer always was, is and always be "because white guys dont approach me." of course there are one or two white men that i find attractive but mainly im not sad that they r not interested in me cuz i think black men are way more attractive

[chooselove_PREV (deleted)]

From being on both sides of the track..dating white men for most of my life and in the past three years interracting with black men..this is my take. Black men and white men are very different in their approach to women. I admire extremely that black men are more forward and go after what they want when they see a woman. They are more prone to expressing their feelings and can fall in love quite easily, which in most cases is sometimes difficult for white men. I am sure that there are exceptions as in every case..but there is a big difference in their attitudes. White men do not take the initiave and are less bold then black men. From my experience a white man could love a woman for a very long time and sometimes a woman will never know because he is not bold enough to speak out. The heart of a woman wants a man who is bold and sure of himself..a woman truly does want to be pursued and that is what black men do ..sometimes with a vengence LOL...we do want our knight in shining armor to ride in on his white horse and sweep us off our feet..well at least I do? Wow a black man on a white horse that would be a site to behold. LOL That is ONE of the reasons I am interested in black men...I admire their tenacity...I feel like I know where I stand with them on an emotional level almost immediately. I do agree with you bavariasfinest we understand each other I too think that black men are way more attractive simply because they are more transparent. That is my take. Thanks for reading.

[islandboy77]

`im a white guy...im from the bahamas and i have never had a problem with dating a black woman. i think they are very attractive! i also date white . i think every race has their own beauty. i dont like sayin that one is better then the other or more attractive. when i see beauty in a black woman....maby its something i wont see in a white woman.......and then.....when i see beauty in a white woman i wont see that in a black woman. i respect all women.....and i dont hesitate to let u kno that im attracted to you! or to tell you that you are just beautiful. but hey .....thats just me!

[smokinprincess7_PREV (deleted)]

`this situation is the same with black women and asian males you never see them hooking up but you would see a black male and an asian female and i always wondered why that is, lol asian guys need to spread the love a little more too

[firewoman333_PREV (deleted)]

`There are curious Asian men out there. I was out one night with a group of friends when a guy from Hawaii hit on me. He came up to dance with me, bought a drink then introduced me to his (female) cousin as if he needed her approval. He was really sweet. I about feel off my rocker when I realized he was making a pass at me. He asked me for my number and everything. His only downfall for me, was that he was much shorter than me. Asian culture really stresses to marry within their own. My best friend is Asian and Black. Her mother was basically disowned from her family because she married a black man and had mixed children (half breeds- as her grandmother called them) It's stupid. You don't pick and choose who you fall in love with or who you are attracted to. People need to get over it.

[jay45]

.yeah shes right. This world is going to go to hell the way it thinks. i mean a girl is a girl. As cultures are concerned maybe they can learn something different.