Interracial Dating and Acceptance from Family & Friends

[mschae916 (deleted)]

Ok guys here's a subject that hasn't been addressed in the forum so I thought I might venture to initiate this subject for those who might be a little shy or just aren't confident at this point to express their feelings on the subject of challenges of interracial dating and acceptance from family and friends.

At best we all want to be accepted, this is nothing new, particularly by our family and friends..the decisions we make are sometimes scruitinized by parents or other love ones..most of us still strive to stay within the so-called norm. Date people of our own race, hmm..but then you become attracted to someone not of your ethnic background..now what do we do? Do we not pursue it, because in doing so we may open a quagmire of opposition from family and friends? Or do we simply become passive but polite with this person..knowing that deep down inside we want more, we want a relationship, we want to be with this person for as long as we can...what to do? If it matters that much to you..have a conversation with your family, parents especially..ask them how would they feel about you dating someone outside of your ethnic background? Listen to what they have to say. Take into consideration and then respond in kind. If it is negative then you need to let them know how you feel about this person you've met and how much you want them to be a part of your life..and hope that they will understand. Now for the most part, a loving parent wants their child to be happy in whatever they choose to do in life..A relationship outside their ethinic backgroumnd should be no different..Give them the benefit of the doubt, afterall they are your parents. Now if it seems that the opposition is waining on biggotry or just plain hatred, then the only other option is to weigh your decision and think carefully about the situation. Weigh all the pros and cons as it were..Do you continue to pursue the relationship knowing that she/he may never be accepted. Or do you circum to the pressure of family.

My mother always taught us that the world is more than what we know, meaning it was not limited to our general surroundings. There were so many things out side of our community to see and do..including relationships that would be formed as we got older...she never set limitations of who we might encounter...simply because our background was diverse to begin with..so for her, it would be normal to be with anyone of our choosing..no matter what the ethnic background or culture.

True friends will either accept your choice because it is your choice, they are your friends because you or you and those bonds aren't easily broken. Still, if you encounter opposition from them....then maybe it time to get some new friends..just kidding...This can prove to be an emotional conundrum in both senerios. We are who we are because of family and friends...so again I ask what do you do? Let's have an adult discussion, shall we?

MsChae916

[animuluv (deleted)]

`im 48 yrs old and having been doing interacial dating for many yrs.in those situations in life you find out quickly who accepts your choice and who doesnt,wether it be freinds or family.its my choice to stand up for who i want to be with in life.i realise many wont like my choice or agree with my choice.if i get too much opposition from them(freinds fam) then im not as close to them as i thought i was.it is hard to set and discus this topic with his or her parents or youre own family but we need to do it. we can not learn if we dont talk and set and listen to our families and maybe our future relatives.i personally have lost a few freinds over the yrs due to my choices but thats ok because they showed theyre true inner feelings about how they felt about my choice.if they dont like my choise and cant accept my choice then i dont want or need them in my life as freinds.if the nay sayers are my personal family members then i simply choose not to be around them very often. i agree with MSchae916 words.every day is not always easy. together you can brave every storm but also create and experience a wonderful life together.
Johnny.

[ncrg14]

animuluv wrote: `im 48 yrs old and having been doing interacial dating for many yrs.in those situations in life you find out quickly who accepts your choice and who doesnt,wether it be freinds or family.its my choice to stand up for who i want to be with in life.i realise many wont like my choice or agree with my choice.if i get too much opposition from them(freinds fam) then im not as close to them as i thought i was.it is hard to set and discus this topic with his or her parents or youre own family but we need to do it. we can not learn if we dont talk and set and listen to our families and maybe our future relatives.i personally have lost a few freinds over the yrs due to my choices but thats ok because they showed theyre true inner feelings about how they felt about my choice.if they dont like my choise and cant accept my choice then i dont want or need them in my life as freinds.if the nay sayers are my personal family members then i simply choose not to be around them very often. i agree with MSchae916 words.every day is not always easy. together you can brave every storm but also create and experience a wonderful life together.
Johnny.



You are brave. I am thinking about dating outside of the race tired of getting burned. I respect the honesty.