Is Dating Like Shopping? Do You Multi-Date?

[honeynibbles]

Depending on your purpose(s) for dating, is it okay (for you) to date more than one person at a time? If so, are your companions aware that you multi-date?

There's no wrong answer here; it all depends on our personal desires, preferences, and goals. 8)

[medusa58 (deleted)]

.there is nothing wrong in disclosing multi dating to dates,it should be take it or leave it,i am what i am.

[cosplaychic2011]

`I've been know to multi-date a bit, I don't think it's a big deal.

[onelove748 (deleted)]

`Yes, it's ok...to date more than one person....that's why it's called dating. I think that if your asked if your dating other people you should be honest. But I believe until a man asks me.....for a committed/monogamous relationship, and we both agree that that is what we both want. Until that happens, I'm free to see whoever I want too.

[infinitegent (deleted)]

`I feel like what everyone said about this topic is pretty much my personal feelings too. But I will clarify just for me, I'm not into casual dating at this point in my life. Dating multiple people was something I did when I was younger and in school. I felt like that's what I needed at that time, not really trying to be committed to just one person. I feel like there comes a time in everyone's life when you have the need to explore your options and just see what's out there.

And even now I hang out with a friend to go out to eat or the movies. But it's just that, we hang out to enjoy each others company. I don't necessarily consider it a date though. To me a date should actually be leading to something. If I ask you out on a date it's because I am interested in getting closer to you on a romantic level. To see if we are compatible for a deeper relationship than just friends. So if that's the case I will clarify that to you and ask up front if you're seeing anyone else. It's important to draw clear lines and have a understanding. If not, what if you're just out here casually dating. Does that mean you're having casual --- with multiple people too? You have to be real with yourself, it could happen. I just think that's not a good situation to be in if someone has emotional ties to you.

[onelove748 (deleted)]

`I don't believe in casual sex, a date does not mean "sex" to me. I agree that it's important to be honest with one another. It takes time to get to know someone. Dating and a relationship are totally two different things to me! Dating is just looking for that person that you would like to be in a relationship with and see if it leads to more. Now, a booty call, a one night stand, and a friend with benefits......now that's a whole different subject....and I don't consider that dating.

[lrai (deleted)]

`It's very interesting to read everyone's comments. I'm not sure how I'd feel about it.

Certainly talking to multiple people in the beginning I find fully acceptable, but if it starts to get serious (define that how you wish), then those involved should clarify if they want to multi-date or work on a monogamous relationship. By that point, it probably just depends on the couple. - IMO

[gqwhiteguy (deleted)]

`Well said, lrai! I couldn't agree more.

[aquaticdamsel (deleted)]

I agree with the last 2 posts for the most part. I think if the parties involved are truly honest in who they are and what they want from the start, it won't be too hard to determine where it is going, and if you want to go there together. I think, in dating, the getting to know your stage should involve more friendship than romance anyway, because if you were to date multiple partners at once, are you really giving any of them your undivided attention? I'm sure it's different for everyone. Def a complex thing to think about...

[genuine6969]

` Before I even think about a 'date' with someone I like to do a 'meet and greet'. No formal setting, no candlelight and dinner and no expectations. Perhaps a walk in the park or something. If we click then I move on to the 'date' stage with them. I haven't dated much because by the end of the 'meet and greet' I pretty much know if the chemistry/potential is there for something more.
Besides, who wants to be stuck on a 'date' with someone that you may not even like...lol! The filtering process even b4 a 'date' is the way to go...lol!