Black/White Dating Versus White/Black Dating

[jewelsun (deleted)]

litlerdcaboose wrote: As a rule, you see more black males with white female relationships than white males with black female relationships. For a long time, I pondered that issue. My take on it is that black men are more forward when asking for a date. They take the initiative when seeking a date. On the other hand, even though a white guy may be attracted to a black women, he usually doesn't take the initiative and ask her out. I don't think it's because he is afraid of what others might say or that he will get turned down. I just think maybe he might feel that a black woman would have no interest. No way! There are a lot of us black females out here who would love to have a white guy ask them out! Lots of us prefer interracial relationships and some of us are even seeking LTR/marriage. But, if we never get asked out, how would you know? I know that in today's relationships, females also have the right to ask a guy out, and, some of us do. However, there are still a lot of us females that love the old fashioned Boy-Meets-Girl scenario. I wonder how other black females feel about this???

Litlerdcaboose

My advice to u is. To do whatever turns u on but do not fall for the con artist twist enjoy but for all the right reasons some people still want to sneak around afraid of what people might say soooo to get u in the. Bed room they. Lead u on welcome to the real did u know that black americans are 10 times likely to be inprisoned for illegal drugs offenses than whites even though both groups use and sell drugs at the same rate u see people are still in the dark u and I want a better america where races can marry date its social structure will not let u there is a dangerwhen we only see the botton line of corporate affiliations without fully understanding the fine print people will go so far as tochargeda higher interest when buying a home because of. Ethnicity as u know no bank should give a loan to any who can not pay it back many african americans were charged higher interest rates with subpime loans than white americans so a few examples of what people will. Do to keep the races apart do not get me wrong date and love who ever just read the fine print

[softroses08]

`OK let just say what on our mind . Black men as well as white Who is counting there difference Who Care's which one is better in the bedroom, who care about who has the most money ,who care about who spent more time behind bar's, Who care about this and that when The question was Black White dating-Versus White Black dating. Why we feel a need to explore our difference beat me. I learn to Except the man as the man in other word What he is all about. Their is Good and Bad in everyone. Who want a Bad man no matter what color he is wrap in We will never agree who better at this and that when we are all difference and like different thing. That is what make the world as bad as it is go around.There are real good Black men Other races also have Good men . So why do we try to put one down and one up when it just our own personal experience leading the way and who told you that your opinion make the world go around . How can you as one person change thing's so with that in mind Choose who in the hell you want to be with and like what they bring to the table .Stop trying to separate us by color because in the end it never matter.

[nativeuro (deleted)]

`i think that white girl/black guy relationships are usually based on and sustained on surface appearances and pleasure wheras black female/non black male relationships are based on characteristics and compatibility, and this is why you see more white girl/black guy ---- --s, i mean logically think about it for a second.

more (shallow) people like short term relationships and sex,people shouldnt be building there relationships around these values.

less people are willing to build a loving relationship over a long period of time thats based on the true ideals of love. but atleast these people know what love and relationships are supposed to be about.

Id also like to comment on white guys not initiating the convo, this isnt true atleast with me (then again im only part white) and ill tell you why.

a lot of girls when I first see them, i dont feel them and theres nothing motivating me to initiate the convo. Im not afraid to admit that a majority of black females i meet "get my fire started" lol.

only girls who get my fire started inspire me to work my magic and get to know them and black females give me that magic!!!! lol.

[gabrielles09]

`I personally think that it goes beyond appearances and attraction I think that black women and white men are so rare alot of the time that they are afraid of outside influences

[pimpjuice]

`I've got to say I, Love love love black women! I find them way more attractive than white woman and they really do do it for me. However I'm quite a confident guy and the two black women I have asked out before I didn't get the most pleasant response so it has put me off asking any more for dates!! Which is a shame as I've had a few dates with white girls since and they just don't do it for me.

[femmechocolat (deleted)]

`This is a tough one for me, because I've only dated white men, and I've never had a problem being asked out or having serious relationships. My ex was Native American, and again...no problems, there, even with his very traditional family. I do think that things are changing, though. I'm older than most of you, and can remember when black women were considered very exotic and desirable and some white men were very curious about us, especially in Europe and England and other countries. It was for all the wrong reasons, but I found that once we'd gotten past the initial stereotyping, we were able to have real friendships. Today, there's a little less of that. And the attitudes here in America have almost gone back to the Jim Crow days, I think. I agree with someone here who said that a lot of young white guys are just not interested in black women--there's a kind of peer pressure now about that. Hispanic women, fine. Black...no longer the "badge of courage" they used to be. And of course, we all remember the John Mayer comments! Even so...I haven't found white men to be difficult to meet or to date, thus far.